Women’s rights are always used for vilifying Islam and espousing Christianity on the pretext that Christianity is mostly deemed more equitable towards women in terms of marriage rulings. The E-Da`wah Committee is pleased to present this publication to explore women’s rights in terms of marriage rulings between Christianity and Islam.
Women’s rights are always used for vilifying Islam and espousing Christianity on the pretext that Christianity is mostly deemed more equitable towards women in terms of marriage rulings. However, let’s avoid empty talk and false slogans and explore women’s rights in terms of marriage rulings between Christianity and Islam.
Women’s Rights and Marriage
Marriage ensures the decency of woman and man on an equal footing. However, marriage is more beneficial to woman than man for it provides her with a caretaker and custodian rather than just a male. This can be available only within legitimate marriage. Out of wedlock, a woman cannot have a caretaker and custodian within an honorable, decent framework.
On the contrary, man can dispense with the benefits which he may get from a wife in an illegitimate way. He may buy both sexual gratification and housekeeping with money.
Anyway, despite the considerable benefits marriage provides for man and the more considerable benefits it does woman, Christianity recommends celibacy and misogamy.
In the New Testament, we read the following verses:
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” (1 Corinthians 7:1)
“To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.” (1 Corinthians 7:8)
“Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” (1 Corinthians 7:25-28)
“I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:32-35)
“So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better. A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.” (1 Corinthians 7:38-40)
Needless to say, monks and nuns are under an obligation to remain celibate so that the “celibacy vow” will not be broken, following in the footsteps of Mary and her son, Jesus Christ.
However, though such imposition of celibacy goes against the human nature, and what is more, is not provided for in the Bible, it still involves equality between man and woman. Yet, the imposition of celibacy on women goes farther than that in Christianity to such an extent which oversteps the bounds of justice and equality.
Christianity prohibits widows and divorcees from remarriage and prohibits men from marrying them. It deems their desire for marriage a sort of a lack of dedication to Christ. We read: “As for younger widows, do not put them on such a list. For when their sensual desires overcome their dedication to Christ, they want to marry.” (1 Timothy 5:11)
Christianity warns against marrying divorcees and likens marriage with a divorcee to that with an adulteress. In the New Testament, we read: “And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:32) We also read: “And whoever will take her who is divorced commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
As for Islam, it makes it incumbent on all able-bodied men who can afford marriage to marry. At the same time, it makes it lawful for all unmarried Muslim women to get married.
Anas reported that three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) to inquire about the worship of the Prophet. When they were informed, they considered their worship insignificant and said: “Where are we in comparison with the Prophet while God has forgiven his past sins and future sins?” One of them said: “As for me, I shall offer Salah all night long.” Another said: “I shall observe fasting continuously and shall not break it”. Another said: “I shall abstain from women and shall never marry”. The Prophet came to them and said, “Are you the people who said such and such things? By God, I fear God more than you do, and I am most obedient and dutiful among you to Him, but still I observe fasting and break it; perform Salah and sleep at night and take wives. So whoever turns away from my Sunnah (tradition) does not belong to me”. (Bukhari and Muslim)